You may have noticed recent campaigns using names  such  as “against bullying”, “anti-bullying” or “stop bullying”.    As much as we support the intent of these campaigns, we believe there is a much better way to go about it with faster, long lasting, quality results.

Pushing “against” something, even when the intent is from the heart, simply feeds a negative situation (what you focus on grows).  We explain how energy works and why this is so in our book Magic tools to overcome bullying and other stressful stuff!

Take a moment to explore the statements “We are against bullying” or “I want that person to stop bullying me”.  How does it feel when those words are used?  For most people it creates anger, anxiety or maybe a feeling of helplessness.  The negative energy can be painfully felt as the focus is on what we don’t want.

Now explore the desired result e.g.  “We support harmony and respect ”  or “I have loving, respectful relationships”.  Notice the difference in the feeling here.  There is a sense of relief, calmness and empowerment.  The energy flow now is positive as we are focused on what we do want and can begin to create the same.

Mother Theresa was quoted as saying “I will never join an anti-war rally, however I will join a peace rally”.  It says it all.

When we join together with a vision to change something we believe is better for our surroundings, the energy we send out is very powerful.  Why not collectively name and feel it in a positive way, and create a short cut to the outcomes we long for and deserve.

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Maz and Ray

It’s hard to understand why such pain suffering has to happen, and in the larger scheme of things there is no doubt a reason.  Such events can leave us feeling emotionally distraught and drained – wondering what we can do to help in a personal way.

Financial and hands-on support is an option of course, however we can help on an emotional level as well.  This may sound strange as the way to do this is find the best emotional space for yourself that you can.

You cannot help others if you come from a place of negative emotion yourself.   It doesn’t assist them and it certainly doesn’t assist you.  By imagining them healing, finding peace and positivity about the future – sending love and light is the biggest gift you can give.

This is not to say that you lack compassionate in any sense.  Ray and I found ourselves glued to the TV with the coverage of the tragic earthquake in New Zealand – the same dreadful footage being played over and over.  We found ourselves feeling the pain of those suffering on a deep level and we are sure you can relate to that.

We reminded ourselves that to watch such events continuously we were imprinting the trauma into our personal DNA and by holding ourselves in such a negative space would attract negativity into our own lives.

Most of us do choose to watch  the news and have a gauge of what is going on in the world, however it is helpful to be aware that watching too much negativity is not good, especially if felt at a deeply emotional level.

Our advice is to observe what is going on, allow yourself to feel compassion, then as quickly as possible imagine those involved at peace, healing, rebuilding their lives and becoming happier every day.  If we fill our hearts with love and light and send this transformational energy on mass – it’s the most powerful gift we can collectively give.

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Maz and Ray

I reflected on previous years and remembered I had that same feeling.  As it got closer to Christmas I would set out to buy those last minute gifts, declaring that I would enjoy the experience in a relaxing way.  Sure enough it wouldn’t take long to pick up the vibes of those around me, feel the shattered auras,  start to feel “pressured” and come home feeling exhausted.

Why do we create this every year?    For many of us it seems as if there is nothing  beyond Christmas!  We believe that everything must be done and in place, that we should catch up with everyone socially and that we ought to buy gifts for everyone – even if we can’t really afford it.

On top of all that, we can have high expectations of Christmas Day itself, excesses of food on the table, often running around like crazy to do the right thing and make everyone happy.  Phew!  No wonder we can end up exhausted, sensitive or snappy.

So what can you do to create a different experience?

1. Remember to breathe!  Long, slow calming breaths whenever you catch yourself getting up tight.
2. Ask yourself, what is the true meaning of Christmas for me?  Is it about the presents?  Is it about having everything in perfect order?  Is it about the “shoulds”, “musts” and “oughts” and “doing the right thing”?
3. If the answer is no, create a picture of the way you would like your experience to be – from heart space.
4. Let go, be authentic and share your thoughts about  your ideal Christmas with those around you.  You quite likely will find that others  feel the same way too.

Changing your focus gives a whole new perspective of what is happening around you.  You will notice opportunities to show acts of kindness in many ways – give a smile or a helping hand.

Simply radiating your new found calmness, light and “presence” with everyone around you is the greatest gift of all!

We would like to send our very best wishes for the festive season to you and your loved ones.  We are truly thankful for your support of our quest to help people create  happy and amazing lives.

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Maz and Ray

Setting goals, big or small, can change your life in amazing ways. It’s how you go about it that makes the difference. Successful people know this. If you have a clear picture about what you want or where you want to be and truly capture the feeling essence of it, the universe will do everything in its power to bring it to you.

Many of us are familiar with setting goals for what we want to achieve physically – the doing stuff! e.g. setting business goals, to buy a new car, get a promotion, or go on that holiday. Why not start to set goals on a personal level e.g. to feel more empowered and in control of your life; to believe in yourself; to feel good no matter how people are behaving around you.

Ask yourself:

• How do I want to think differently in my everyday life? e.g. About me? About my relationships? About the way I live my life?
• How do I want to feel differently? e.g. About myself as a person? About my sense of self-worth and empowerment?
• If I thought and felt like that – how would I act? What would I change or do differently?

Simply taking the time to reflect and get clear on what you want, instead of what you don’t want, is all that it takes to set the wheels in motion.

Start by writing your goals in the present tense e.g. ”I am thinking more positively”; “I now feel confident”; “I am now more open and honest”. Visualise/ capture the feeling essence of living your life in this new way and begin to take “inspired” action (action that feels right). Small steps are great.

When you realise that you have choice in how you think and respond and build a healthy respect for that special and unique person that is you, bullying, stress and depression become a thing of the past. The people around you begin to mirror that same respect you now have for yourself and the door is now open to the wonderful life you deserve!

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Maz and Ray

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Here are some tips for “spring cleaning your mind”.

1. Take time out to reflect on the squillions of thoughts that clutter your mind throughout the day (and night for many of us!).

2. Step back and become a witness – are your thoughts mostly positive ones or negative ones? Do they serve you well?

3. Notice how you “feel” when you are in a negative or positive frame of mind.

4. When you catch yourself in a negative thought pattern – simply ask the question “that is obviously what I don’t want! What is it that I do want?”

5. Make time to consciously write down and say goodbye to the negatives e.g. “I am so unfit” or “I’m not happy with the way people treat me”.

6. Write down and visualise what you do want e.g. “I am working toward the ideal fitness level for me” or “I am beginning to treat myself with love and respect – other people sense that and are treating me well to”.

7. Capture the essence of it – pretend that you have what you want now. What does it look like, or feel like? Be specific as you can! E.g. “I am healthy and energised, ready to burst right out of my skin!” or “I feel happy, free and empowered, ready to live life to the full”.

8. Take inspired action, even a small step toward your goal will get you on your way e.g. organise to walk regularly with a friend or begin a morning ritual of appreciation for the special and unique being that you are!

Make space, become open and “allow” the good to flow into your life. You may well be amazed with the results!

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